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Animalistic Sex Versus Making Love
Some men will never make love in their lives, because sex has to be rough — even abusive — to be satisfying
Most of us have read — or at least heard of the book Fifty Shades of Grey about a young woman named Anastasia and her sadomasochistic relationship with billionaire Christian Grey.
Forgive my ignorance; what would most people call a self-centered, spoiled, wealthy, entitled man who coerces a vulnerable, sexually innocent woman into allowing herself to be tied up, spanked, tortured, and, effectively, sexually abused?
And then rationalize it by excusing this man’s behavior as a result of his suffering abuse as a child and then turning him into the hero for showing some ultimate vulnerability.
This tale of sexual abuse was heralded as a once-in-a-generation novel — ultimately made into two major motion pictures.
Do most men have Christian Grey-like fantasies of tying women up, hitting them, and sexually dominating and exploiting them?
You know the answer.
Do women have sadomasochistic fantasies as frequently as men?
I doubt it, but I don’t know.
The first few sentences of an abstract in the Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, entitled, Sadomasochism, Sexual…
