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Are You Bad at Sex?
Or are you just sick of doing it with the same person?
We’ve got to get to a point where we can love someone regardless of whether our sexual expectations are being met.
Or not.
Men and women often end up in frustratingly impossible psychological and emotional states, where, a woman often takes it deeply personally when her husband no longer leers at her, thinking to himself, “If I wait for another second to make love to her, I will explode.”
And men can’t process the shift from the horny adolescent stage to the more settled, less sexually exciting, relationship or marriage.
I remember thinking to myself after making love to my wife for perhaps the thousandth time that she must be getting sick of my sexual routine.
Well into our second year of wedded bliss, I was still very much attracted to my wife. Still, we had this strange, slightly awkward, tacit acknowledgment that rekindling the fire, passion, and near mind-blowing, orgasmic sex of our honeymoon stage, was something that might keep marriage counselors in business but was — at best — wishful thinking.
The truth is a woman wants her husband to love her in ways that can only be demonstrated non-verbally.
