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Having an Affair and Not Feeling Guilty About It
Instead of justifying, over-thinking, begging for forgiveness, or swearing to keep an affair secret, keeping your mouth shut may be the best strategy
Before accusing me of click-baiting with this hyperbolic headline. I am not proposing affairs are something to celebrate — they cause pain, and by definition, ruin somebody’s fairy tale….or life. They are immoral.
I am suggesting our popular culture is rethinking and separating our biological desire for unplanned, animalistic, sex, from the linguistic gymnastics we spew from our mouths when trying to justify our natural inclinations.
Just say nothing
I see a new strategy emerging, where instead of trying to justify, analyze, over-think, rationalize, or overtly agree to keep an affair secret, we keep our mouths (and thoughts) shut, following our natural biological urges wherever they may lead.
It’s still cheating just as much as any generation, but we’re starting to throw in the towel on the mind games and guilty thoughts. Maybe the best way to accept our animalistic, biologically-driven desires is to indulge them as much as we wish and not judge ourselves by labeling them.
