I agree that men are constantly vigilant about their masculinity being challenged. I think that's why it's so difficult to find, as you say, alternate forms of masculinity. I'm thinking there's a way for boys and men to retain a robust, masculine, spirit while at the same time being a 'gentle giant.' I'm not scientifically smart enough to know how testosterone levels, conditioning, peer pressure, and social media push some men toward violence when many learn to control themselves. Thanks so much for the thoughts.