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Marriage Is Not an Equal Partnership
Disputes over money, proposals, fairytale weddings, and sexual double standards expose deep gender differences
Of course, many men and woman do want equal partnerships conceptually…
But what does TRUE equality actually look like?
Splitting the bills: No separate or secret bank accounts.
Household expenses, credit card debt, restaurants, vacations, entertainment, insurance, auto loans are shared equally, regardless of one’s education, career, financial status, inherent wealth, or gender — even if one person saves every penny and the other spends like a drunken sailor — bills are shared 50–50.
Gender-neutral marriage proposals: In 2024, women are still at the utter mercy of men — like a child — when it comes to proposing marriage.
Equality means women should propose to men too — interrupting the power imbalance where women have to hint, pray, threaten, and suffer at the mercy of “their man.”
If you’re a woman — who’s tired of waiting — go ahead and propose.
Purchase a “male-appropriate” engagement ring, get on one knee, and hope he says yes.
Men like diamonds too.
That first kiss: Why should it be up to the man?
