Till Death Do Us Part…

Jonathan Morris Schwartz
5 min readFeb 9, 2024

Unless you get fat, wrinkled, angry, depressed, or ugly…

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What happened to unconditional love?

Everybody changes.

We get fat. We lose our hair. We get depressed or lose interest in doing much of anything.

We lose our self-confidence.

We have imperfections that drive us crazy — our hair, our skin, our posture, our voice, our libido.

Why are we so obsessed with our physical appearance, particularly as we age?

If a man marries a thin, tight-skinned, happy-go-lucky, sexual bunny and she gains weight, develops wrinkles, and stops having sex like a teenager, is it “fair” to want to trade her in for someone who looks and acts like the person you originally married?

If a woman marries a fit, loving, attentive, well-coiffed, sexual diehard, and he gets fat, bald, distant, and unable to produce the same level of rigidness she’s grown so deeply accustomed to, does she have the right to dump him like yesterday’s trash and find a man who meets her original requirements?

If we agree every “fresh and new” relationship is fueled by punch-drunk, serotonin-soaked, sexual explosiveness…..followed by a more settled, calm, meaningful, love….at what point is it fair to say to our lover or spouse, “You’ve changed way too…

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Jonathan Morris Schwartz

Jonathan Morris Schwartz is a speech language pathologist living in Ocala, Florida writing about love, politics, philosophy, and consciousness.