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We Crave Love Biologically
That’s why it won’t last….until we evolve
This opinion piece is purposefully provocative. And while I’m trying to get a rise out of you, I’m dead serious about love being a biological need as much as eating, drinking, and sleeping.
We crave love. We need love. It’s what drives us to stay alive.
Yet so many of us continue to bang our heads against the wall in disbelief every time someone does us wrong by cheating or dumping us for another.
When we’re hungry we crave food and are satiated for a while — same with love. We hunger for it, find it, exploit it, and are then ready for the next meal.
Here’s the truth about why love can sometimes hurt so badly:
It’s an illusion
The pursuit is love.
The trying to impress, the smirks, the laughs — the stuff that gets our heart beating and our minds ablaze with desire.
Love is strongest at the moment of emergence. When it fades, we crave the chase….again and again.
Heartbreak
The result of being controlled by our biology is we are going to lose people we thought would love us forever.
When love goes bad it can be profoundly, unbearably, painful.
