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We’re All Hypocrites in Love
But the alternative is something entirely different
Imagine for a moment we lived in a world where having multiple sex partners was normal.
A world where you spend most of your time with the person you love but have others in your life you care about and enjoy having sex with, regularly.
Can you love many people at the same time?
What if you fall more deeply in love with one of your side romances? If everyone’s on the same page, can you mix and match lovers like your clothes and accessories without emotional pain or jealousy?
We’re hypocritical in love
When we commit to someone we think we can override our hormones and chemistry. We think we can white-knuckle it by taking lots of cold showers and remain sexually loyal. But that’s not our natural human disposition.
We play semantics and mind games by claiming there’s a difference between sex and making love in an attempt to justify our desires and behavior.
We say we’re not possessive but that is precisely what our culture tells us it means to be in a committed, monogamous relationship.
It starts in elementary school. We all remember those cute little colorful Valentine’s heart candies: “You’re Mine,” “Be Mine,” “Forever…
