When Men’s Anger Gets the Best of Them
Many men are quickly triggered, going from irritated to angry to violent…Why? And what to do about it, if anything
I’ve had two fist fights in my life — one in high school and one in college, both essentially over nothing.
I’ll never forget how quickly I went from being calm and rational, to mildly disturbed, to feeling my heart accelerating, to swinging my fist at another man’s face.
So you know the whole story…during the fight in high school, I landed one punch on his jaw…and he landed one punch in my stomach, and then another student broke the fight up and pushed us far enough apart that we had enough time to contemplate the consequences….and walked away.
If the fight hadn’t been broken up, we would have continued until one of us was too winded or hurt to continue….we were that red-hot, out-of-control, angry…..over a seat on the school bus.
The fight in college turned more into a wrestling match than a fistfight, though we both threw punches that missed.
To this day, I remember the emotional arc leading up to these fights.
My blood began to slowly, then quickly, boil, I don’t remember if there were a few seconds between me being mildly disturbed and going bat-shit crazy, that I could’ve talked myself off the ledge….and…
