Young Men and Women Don’t Care About Biological Clocks and Aren’t Going to Pretend Love Lasts Forever

Jonathan Morris Schwartz
4 min readAug 24, 2024

It used to be that you fall in love, get married, have kids, and bare-knuckle your sexual temptations away, accepting that over time your spouse becomes your best friend…not your passionate lover

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Many young folks aren’t buying into the idea that getting married and having children isn’t about them — it’s about putting their spouses and children above their personal satisfaction, desires, and 24-hour happiness.

None of us are perfect, but past generations accepted that the pathway to a spiritually and emotionally meaningful life included the kind of self-sacrifice we see much less of in today’s social media-driven world of instant and never-ending desire for physical and emotional stimulation.

While it’s awkward and unromantic — spending your 20s, 30s, and 40s changing diapers, waiting in car lines, sitting through excruciatingly long dance recitals, crying with your teenager over a broken heart, spending all your money, and wondering how your children are going to make it in this ever-changing, inflationary, dangerous world on their own — is deeply and indescribably gratifying.

The consequence of young people putting their education, careers, and bucket lists first, or waiting until their 30s, 40s…

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Jonathan Morris Schwartz

Jonathan Morris Schwartz is a speech-language pathologist writing about human relationships, love, politics, philosophy, and consciousness.