Your optimistic pragmatism is sincerely awesome and I feel I know you more than I actually do through your writing and unbelievable reasonableness. There's got to be a way to work through marriage doldrums without giving up so quickly. I like your strategies. I've found expectations play a huge role in the future happiness of couples. I'm someone who tries way too hard, so my journey is one of letting go of control. I harbor no illusions anymore...love comes...and when it does, I get on the roller coaster and ride it until it flies of the track. I don't fault the roller coaster, or ask too many question...I just ride...😄