You’re Much More Attractive Than You Think

Jonathan Morris Schwartz
6 min readMar 9, 2024

Social media and dating apps have warped our self-perception of who’s out there for us

Photo by Timothy Dykes on Unsplash

Holy Mackerel!

What if we’re all much more attractive than we’ve been brainwashed to think from social media and dating apps?

What if the psychological and emotional manifestation of being swiped away by thousands, ghosted, and deceived, is a huge deflation of our egos and diminishment of our self-worth and sense of attractiveness?

Maybe trying to find a date by swiping quickly through thousands of two-dimensional, photo-shopped, thumbnail-sized photos, is not the ideal way to spark up, form, or develop a relationship or marriage.

What if men and women have been rejected so frequently in their digital and electronic forms that they begin to blame an entire gender for their dating or sexual misfortunes?

Not everyone is photogenic or comes off as particularly sexy or appealing on a dating app.

We seem stuck in an unimaginably frustrating dystopian world where the same 1% of profiles get swiped over and over while the rest of us end up thinking we’re disgusting, ugly, losers.

Sexual attraction is a numbers game

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Jonathan Morris Schwartz

Jonathan Morris Schwartz is a speech language pathologist living in Ocala, Florida writing about love, politics, philosophy, and consciousness.